About Me

Kristie Midgette Photography
Klub Koru
Avon North Carolina
beach wedding

I am honored

It is a true honor to unite two people into marriage, to be a part of the beginning of a beautiful, lasting, fulfilling, lifelong relationship.


I have been working in the wedding industry on the Outer Banks for nearly 20 years; from event planning and design to becoming an Interfaith minister eight years ago. 



Winner of 2019, 2018, 2017, 2016, 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011 WeddingWire Couple's Choice Award

Daniel Pullen Photography
Cape Hatteras Lighthouse
Buxton North Carolina
elopement

I am flexible

I love to be a part of your story, but I do not dictate how it must be. Your wedding ceremony should be a reflection of the two of you, I am simply here to assist you and make this process as easy and fun as possible.


Whether you are planning a formal wedding in a local venue, to a quiet beach elopement, I am experienced and comfortable adapting to whatever your day brings! I will work with your other vendors to coordinate details and be helpful to you throughout this process.


I became an Interfaith Minister so that I am knowledgeable and comfortable working with couples from diverse backgrounds and beliefs.

Daniel Pullen Photography
Inn on Pamlico Sound
Buxton North Carolina
soundfront wedding

How does it all work?

When you first contact me, we can arrange a time to speak on the phone or to Facetime/ Skype to determine if we are the right fit. Please feel free to view the video on my website as well as the ceremony samples.  I also have hundreds of ceremonies that I have performed over the years, so if you don't see something that feels right for you, don't worry! I have many ceremonies on hand and many more that I have written myself. 


I will then email you a reservation sheet to gather information about you so that I can get to know a little more about you.  I will provide information for obtaining your marriage license in North Carolina as well as other information you may need. 


We will stay in touch throughout the wedding process, working on final details together. On the day of your wedding, I will arrive early and meet with both of you to go over your ceremony and process your marriage license. 


If you are planning a last minute wedding I am happy to help make that happen! Contact me for elopement pricing (3o days or less until wedding date).


Pricing for ceremonies is inclusive. Pricing for rehearsals is extra. My travel fee is reflected in my pricing below:


Hatteras Island $300

Ocracoke Island $350

Manteo, Nags Head, Kill Devil Hills, Kitty Hawk $400

Duck $425

Corolla $450

Vow Renewals starting at $200


Have more questions? Please contact me via email or telephone!

marriedbythesea@gmail.com

A Lovely Ceremony

Ceremony Samples

Seaside Ceremony

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     Opening 

This beautiful setting should remind us that, like the ocean, human life is an ebb and flow- The life of the spirit and emotions- moves in cycles. To be in a relationship does not guarantee an eternal summer. To make a sincere and honest commitment does not promise, an end to all struggle. What a good relationship does offer, much like this ocean, is the opportunity for renewal. It recognizes the abiding, shared hope that after every fall and winter, spring and summer will come again. 

Ceremony 

Marriage is an affirmation of life, an undying commitment, a spiritual, emotional, and intellectual bond between two people. It is created from the purest of friendship, respect and love. The institution of marriage is not entered into lightly, because it symbolizes commitment on every level. Together you will continue to meet the challenges and obstacles of life head on. 

Marriage is an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the mutual commitment of two people sincerely in love who share the same dreams about life. But more than that, it is the intimate sharing of two lives. It is a sharing that does not diminish but enhances the individuality of each partner. 

Love is the longing two people feel for one another. It is the need to share, in body and spirit, the warmth, serenity and peace two people can give to one another. A simple touch, a hand held at a time of uncertainty. This is what it means to be intimately human. It is the intention behind the kiss that says, Despite the vastness of this earth, despite the chaotic details that make up our lives, despite the hundreds of people we will meet in our travels, you are mine and I am yours forever. 

Love is life’s highest emotion. It makes us less selfish, it makes our personalities grow, and it makes our lives more meaningful. It is caring about the welfare and happiness of your partner as your own. Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. And it makes you stronger so you can reach out and become involved with life in ways you dare not risk alone. 

A successful relationship takes more than just love. It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. 

You have chosen to walk through life together. There is no truer statement of love. The choice was not made by any one moment, but by being together you grew to realize that you belonged together and that you fulfilled each other’s needs. You have come to thrive upon each other’s presence, loyalty and wisdom. The foundation of your love is profound friendship. The commitment you make today will be the foundation on which you will build your life together. 

Your wedding rings represent the unconditional love that you have for one another and are a symbol of the vows that you will make today. ____, take this ring, put it on ___'s finger and repeat after me: 

   

I, __________, take you, ____________, to be my wife/husband, my partner in life and my one true love. 

I will cherish our friendship
and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. 

I will trust you and respect you,
I will laugh with you and cry with you. 

I will love you faithfully and unconditionally
through the best and the worst, the difficult and the easy. 

Whatever may come, I promise I will always be there for you. 

Closing: 

______, remember to remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship,as they threatened all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you. In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives, remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight. 

Give to one another new experiences of joy. Challenge one another so that you may grow. May the love you hold for each other, now sealed in marriage, continue to mature with the passing years. May you never take each other for granted, but always experience the wonder of your union. Be slow to anger, quick to forgive, leaving no tracks of resentment behind each day. 

I hope that the inspiration of this moment will never be forgotten. May all your days and years to come be filled with vision, joy and passion. May the love you now share continue to grow, and may the happiness you bring to each other be a continuing part of your life together. May you continue to laugh often and enjoy each other every day, steadfast in hope and confidence, believing in yourself and believing in each other. May your love be a sanctuary and a source from which you draw strength to live your lives with enthusiasm and imagination. May the people you touch in your lifetime know how much you love and care for one another and may you love one another forever. 

Thank you for sharing your wedding day with me. It is my honor to announce you are husband and wife. 

You may now kiss! 

Non Religious Ceremony

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Officiant: Welcome, family, friends and loved ones. We are gathered here today,
surrounded by the beauty of creation and nurtured by the sights and sounds of nature to
celebrate the wedding of ____. You have come here from nearby and from far away
to share in this commitment now they make to one another, to offer your love and support to
their union, and to allow _____ to start their married life together surrounded by the
people dearest and most important to them.

_________thank you for your presence here today. They ask for your blessing,
encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married. They also remember
other loved ones who cannot be here to share this moment with them today. Those people
too, they hold dear in their hearts.

__________, marriage is the promise between two people who love each other, who trust
that love, who honor one another as individuals in that togetherness, and who wish to spend
the rest of their lives together. It enables the two separate souls to share their desires,
longings, dreams, and memories, their joys and sorrows, and to help each other through all
uncertainties of life. A strong marriage also nurtures each of you as separate individuals and
allows you to maintain your unique identity and grow in your own way through the years
ahead. It is a safe haven for each of you to become your best self while together you become
better than ever could be alone.

You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship
and blessing of a deep trust. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and love. To
make this relationship work, therefore, takes more than love. It takes trust, to know in your
hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one
another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward
together without knowing what the future holds for you both.

READING
If you wish to insert


DECLARATION OF INTENT AND SHARING OF VOWS

Please join hands, look at one another now and remember this moment in
time.

Officiant: _____, please take ____ hand and repeat after me.

Lizzy, I take you as you are/ loving who you are now and who you are yet to become/ I promise from this day forward/ To be grateful for our love and our life/ To be generous with my time, my energy and my affection/ To be patient with you and with myself/ To fill our life with adventure and our home with laughter/ To encourage you to grow as an individual, and inspire you to do so/ To love you completely/ These things I pledge before you, our friends and our family/

Officiant: ____, please take ____ hand and repeat after me.

_____, I take you as you are,/ loving who you are now and who you are yet to become./ I promise from this day forward/ To be grateful for our love and our life/ To be generous with my time, my energy and my affection/ To be patient with you and with myself/ To fill our life with adventure and our home with laughter/ To encourage you to grow as an individual, and inspire you to do so/ To love you completely/ These things I pledge before you, our friends and our family/

Officiant: ___ do you take ____ to be your wife? Pat: I do.

Officiant: ____, do you take ____ to be your husband? ____ I do.

BLESSING AND GIVING OF RINGS

Officiant: Please present the rings

Your wedding ring is a symbol of your promise to one another. The ring, an unbroken, never ending circle, is a symbol of committed, unending love.

Pat, as you place this ring on ____finger, repeat these words after me: This ring symbolizes my love for you/ and the commitments we made today

_____, as you place this ring on _____ finger, repeat these words after me: This ring symbolizes my love for you/ and the commitments we made today

CONCLUSION & PRONOUNCEMENT

_______, you have come here today of your own free will and in the presence of family and friends, have declared your love and commitment to each other. You have given and received a ring as a symbol of your promises. By the power of your love and commitment to each other, and by the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now share your first kiss as husband and wife. Congratulations. Friends and family, I now present to you the newly married couple. 

Modern Traditional Ceremony

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Welcome
Welcome everyone. We gather today to celebrate the love between ____. Weddings are the best aren’t they? It’s hard to do better than seeing two people publicly express their unconditional love for one another. What makes it special for each of you in the audience is the love we all share for _____ You’re here today not just because of your love for them, but because of their love for you and their desire for their family and friends to take part in this special day in their lives.

We’re all fortunate not only to know _____ but to know how special the love they share is, and to begin today we will have two readings they’ve selected expressing how they feel about their bond and the commitment they’re making today.

Readings
Reading No 1: A PASSAGE FROM THE ALCHEMIST BY PAULO COELHO
“When he looked into her eyes, he learned the most important part of the language that all the world spoke — the language that everyone on earth was capable of understanding in their heart. It was love.


Something older than humanity, more ancient than the desert. What the boy felt at that moment was that he was in the presence of the only woman in his life, and that, with no need for words, she recognized the same thing. Because when you know the language, it’s easy to understand that someone in the world awaits you, whether it’s in the middle of the desert or in some great city.

And when two such people encounter each other, the past and the future become unimportant. There is only that moment, and the incredible certainty that everything under the sun has been written by one hand only. It is the hand that evokes love, and creates a twin soul for every person in the world. Without such love, one’s dreams would have no meaning.”

Reading No. 2: UNION, ROBERT FULGHUM
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way.

All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed? – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world – this is my husband. This is my wife.


Officiant address (I say a few words 3-5min)

Vows
[Name]: I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be together.
With my whole heart, I take you as my wife/husband, acknowledging and loving your faults and strengths, as you do mine.
I promise to be faithful and supportive and to make our love and happiness my priority.
I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph.
I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring.
you are my person—my love and my life, today and always.

Expression of commitment to marriage (I Do’s)
Do you ___, take ____ as your lawfully wedded wife? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, to be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

Do you ___, take ____ as your lawfully wedded husband? Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, to be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?

Exchange of the rings
Today ____ will be exchanging rings. ______, like your vows these rings will be a reminder of this day, and your commitment and love for one another.

Each repeat – With this ring i thee wed, as a symbol of my love and commitment to you.

Pronouncement
In the presence of family and friends you have expressed your love for one another… (vows, commitment, rings). By the power vested in me by… pronounce you man and wife

Kiss
You may kiss!


Ceremony Samples

Christian Ceremony

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Opening

We are gathered here today in the sight of God, and the presence of friends and loved ones, to celebrate one of life's greatest moments. We are here to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes and blessings to the words that will unite GROOM/BRIDE and GROOM/BRIDE in holy matrimony.

Who gives this man/woman to be married (Optional)

GROOM/BRIDE and GROOM/BRIDE, marriage is the most important of all earthly relationships. It should be entered into reverently, thoughtfully and with full understanding of its sacred nature. Your marriage must stand by the strength of your love and the power of faith in each other and in God. Just as two threads woven in opposite directions form a beautiful tapestry, so to your two lives when merged together will make a beautiful marriage.

Bible Passage 1

1st Corinthians

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud. Love is never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand it's own way. Love is not irritable or touchy. Love does not hold grudges and will hardly notice when others do it wrong. Love is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. If you love someone, you will be loyal to them no matter what the costs. You will always believe in them, always expect the best in them, and will always stand your ground in defending them.

VOWS (face each other and hold hands)(repeat after me)

I, GROOM/BRIDE take you GROOM/BRIDE to be my husband/wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our

friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.

I will trust you and honor you

I will laugh with you and cry with you.

I will love you faithfully

Through the best and the worst,

Through the difficult and the easy.

Whatever may come I will always be there.

As I have given you my hand to hold

So I give you my life to keep

So help me God

I, GROOM/BRIDE take you GROOM/BRIDE to be my Husband/Wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.

I will trust you and honor you

I will laugh with you and cry with you.

I will love you faithfully

Through the best and the worst,

Through the difficult and the easy.

Whatever may come I will always be there.

As I have given you my hand to hold

So I give you my life to keep

So help me God

Bible Passage 2

John 4:7-12

Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is born of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God—for God is love.

God showed how much he loved us by sending his only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love. It is not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. 

Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love has been brought to full expression through us.

I Do’s

GROOM/BRIDE, do you take GROOM/BRIDE to be your Husband/Wife? ("I do") Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him/her, forsaking all others and holding only unto her forevermore? ("I do") 

GROOM/BRIDE, do you take GROOM/BRIDE to be your Husband/Wife? ("I do") Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him/her, forsaking all others and holding only unto him forevermore? ("I do")

The ring is a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.

Ring Exchange (who has the rings) (repeat after me)

 I GROOM/BRIDE, take thee, GROOM/BRIDE to be my Husband/Wife- To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, in joy and sorrow, and I promise My love to you. And with this ring, I take you as my Husband/Wife, for as long as we both shall live.

 I GROOM/BRIDE, take thee GROOM/BRIDE, to be my Husband/Wife. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, in joy and sorrow, and I promise My love to you. And with this ring, I take you as my husband/wife, for as long as we both shall live.

Wedding Prayer

Bless their marriage, O God, as they begin their journey down the road of life together. We don't know what lies ahead for the road turns and bends. But help them to make the best of whatever comes their way. 

Help them to continue to enjoy each other as they did when they first met. Help them to realize that nothing nor no one is perfect and to look for the good in all things and all people including themselves.

Help them to respect each other's likes and dislikes, opinions and beliefs, hopes and dreams and fears even though they may not always understand them. 

Help them to learn from each other and to help each other to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Help them to realize that no matter what happens to them they will hold on to each other and know that things have a way of working out for the good. 

Help them to create for their children a peaceful, stable home of love as a foundation on which they can build their lives.

But most of all, dear God, help them to keep lit the torch of love' that they now share so that by their loving example they may pass on the light of love to their children and to their children's children forever. Amen

Closing Comments

To make your relationship work will take love. This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today.

It will take trust, to know, that in your hearts, you truly want what is best for each other.

It will take dedication, to stay open to one another - and to learn and grow together.

It will take faith, to go forward together, without knowing exactly what the future brings.

And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both have pledged to today.

By the power vested in me I now pronounce you . . . . . . .

The Kiss

You may kiss your Groom/Bride.

I would Like to introduce the happy couple

Ceremony Additions

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SAND CEREMONY

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GROOM and BRIDE you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings and this is a pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives.

Today, this relationship is also symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand. One, representing you, GROOM and One Representing you BRIDE and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be.

As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.

Just as these grains of sand can never be separated, our prayer for you today is that your lives together would be blended like the seven seas and may your love swirl around each other like the changing tides.


HANDFASTING

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Groom and Bride have chosen to conclude their ceremony with a traditional handfasting. This is a symbolic binding of the hands that inspired the terms "Bonds of Holy Matrimony" and to "Tie the knot" Throughout history in many different ways and in many different parts of the world, the hands of the bride and groom were bound as a sign of their commitment to one another. In many times rings were only for the very rich, while love knows no such bound. The cords are not permanent but perishable as a reminder that all things of the material eventually return to the earth, unlike the bond and the connection that is love which is eternals.

Please join your right hands.

(Couple can choose to either hold hands and cord is wrapped around wrists in a figure 8 type fashion-the infinity symbol-or they hold elbows, Groom right to Bride left, and then bind over the forearm lose enough for them to drop into holding hands for the kiss as the cords make the figure 8 around their wrists, then make a comfortable exit.)

May you know nothing but happiness from this day forward.
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.
May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.
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Option 2

Officiant:

 Groom and Bride have chosen to conclude their ceremony with a traditional handfasting. This is a symbolic binding of the hands that inspired the terms "Bonds of Holy Matrimony" and to "Tie the knot" Throughout history in many different ways and in many different parts of the world, the hands of the bride and groom were bound as a sign of their commitment to one another. In many times rings were only for the very rich, while love knows no such bound. The cords are not permanent but perishable as a reminder that all things of the material eventually return to the earth, unlike the bond and the connection that is love which is eternal.

Please join your right hands.

(Couple can choose to either hold hands and cord is wrapped around wrists in a figure 8 type fashion-the infinity symbol-or they hold elbows, Groom right to Bride left, and then bind over the forearm lose enough for them to drop into holding hands for the kiss as the cords make the figure 8 around their wrists, then make a comfortable exit.)

Officiant:

Groom and Bride this cord is a symbol of the lives you have chosen to lead together. Up until this moment, you have been separate in thought, word and action. As your hands are bound together by this cord, so too, shall your lives be bound as one. May you be forever be one, sharing in all things, in love and loyalty for all time to come.

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Option 3

Groom and Bride have chosen to conclude their ceremony with a traditional handfasting. This is a symbolic binding of the hands that inspired the terms "Bonds of Holy Matrimony" and to "Tie the knot" Throughout history in many different ways and in many different parts of the world, the hands of the bride and groom were bound as a sign of their commitment to one another. In many times rings were only for the very rich, while love knows no such bound. The cords are not permanent but perishable as a reminder that all things of the material eventually return to the earth, unlike the bond and the connection that is love which is eternals.

Please join your right hands.

(Couple can choose to either hold hands and cord is wrapped around wrists in a figure 8 type fashion-the infinity symbol-or they hold elbows, Groom right to Bride left, and then bind over the forearm lose enough for them to drop into holding hands for the kiss as the cords make the figure 8 around their wrists, then make a comfortable exit.)

Officiant:

This cord represents the marital bond. It is strong enough to hold you together during times of struggle yet flexible enough to allow for individuality and personal growth. As your hands are now bound together, so shall your lives be bound as one. May you enjoy a lifetime of love and peace, happiness and prosperity.

Great Readings

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[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in]
by e.e. cummings

i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
i fear
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)


“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”
Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea


“When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom”
Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea